4 Painful Reasons Why You Can’t Learn A New Skill

As we all know, learning a new skill can be a daunting task. Anything learned in simple steps is always easier to remember.

If you want to give yourself options in life, it is best to learn a skill in this digital age. Learning and crafting a digital skill may allow you to create a side hustle for yourself or become location-independent. Many digital side hustles have been started from having a set of particular digital skills. There isn’t a better feeling than knowing that if something were to go wrong with your primary source of income, you always have your skill to rely on and make you some money.

Unfortunately, most people would rather suffer than learn anything new.

People don’t take the time to learn a new skill because of the time frame it takes to get results.

Here are 4 reasons why people don’t learn a new skill.

  • It is boring
  • The awkward beginning stage
  • The payoff isn’t fast enough
  • Their why isn’t strong enough

Each of these obstacles is a mental challenge. As with everything, your mind can be your greatest strength or enemy.

Here is how to overcome these challenges:

Get used to doing boring tasks.

Our minds crave excitement and despise routine.

The late great basketball player Kobe Bryant was a great example of this. He often talked about working on his fundamental skills in basketball such as footwork. He would do this for hours upon hours each. No practicing jump shots or anything else. Practicing the boring task of footwork allowed him to master moves he would not be able to do if he had not mastered the monotonous skill of footwork first. Identify the skill you want to learn then practice one small skill within that skill.

Get past the hardest part, the beginning.

The beginning stage of learning a new skill is the hardest because everyone hates feeling uncomfortable and feeling uncomfortable bruises the ego.

Adults tend to have egos and memory of an iPhone pro max when it comes to failure. You have to think of learning a new skill as you did as a child. When you were a baby, you crawled before you knew how to walk.

You probably don’t remember but you busted your butt many times attempting to learn how to walk until you finally did it.

Remember that time you fell off your bike over and over again as a kid? You didn’t let that stop you. You got through the rough part until you learned how to ride a bike.

We had the luxury of not having any painful failures stored as memories as children. That is what makes children so fearless when it comes to learning new things. When life robs us of our innocence as adults, that is where the fear to learn something comes in.

Give yourself a realistic time frame and achievable goals to see results.

Learning a new skill takes time, patience, and effort. The more you perform the skill, the easier it gets, the better you get and the faster you become very skilled at it.

You may not know it but you have done this before. Whenever you go to work each day, you show up and perform certain tasks on the job that are required of you. No matter how small or big the task, you probably do them without thinking about it because you have been doing them for so long. At one point, you were uncomfortable on your first day of the job because you didn’t know what you were doing. You got trained and learned the job in a very short time. Learning a skill isn’t any different. It just feels different because learning a new skill doesn’t pay at first and you aren’t performing it 8 hours a day.

Get full clarity on why you want to learn a new particular skill.

You won’t get proficient at a skill if you don’t do it enough. Doing it each day isn’t going to be fun nor will you want to do it each day.

This is the part where you have to create your long-term plan and how your skill fits into the plan. If learning a new skill means you want to achieve intrinsic goals, it may be harder to maintain the motivation over the journey. Once the basic intrinsic goals are met, the skill you spent so much time perfecting may fade due to no longer feeling motivated to get better. I recommend finding a “why” that can’t be measured physically. You won’t find a strong why overnight but if you keep practicing, you will start to see the benefits of the skill and you will have more clarity about why you are putting your heart and soul into learning a new skill.



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Eric LaShun

Eric LaShun

World Traveler | I write about how INFJ men can live a dope life with Global Mindset, Human Behavior, Psychology, Self-Improvement, Skill Creation